About Jamie Vasilyan
Since my childhood I had suffered bullying, depression, family dysfunction, as well as behavioural and learning difficulties in the form of “ADHD”, although the latter wasn't diagnosed until 2004 at the age of 24.
At the time I had also broken up from my longest relationship ever, was finding it impossible to keep down a job, and became homeless to boot.
I received medication for ADHD, but within weeks became deeply depressed and suicidal.
The psychiatrist then prescribed me mood stabilisers and tranquilisers. But my response to him was unequivocal: "I don't just feel suicidal, I actually threw myself at the glass of a fourth story window. If it wasn't for the staff at the Salvation Army, I wouldn't be here right now. Enough is enough..."
Now, don't get me wrong. For 80% of people medication tends to work pretty well, and many hail it as a miracle. But I was in the 20% for whom it doesn't work and/or the side effects are unbearable. Suffering from headaches, dizziness, dehydration, and tourette's syndrome, that day I refused to follow that path any further and vowed to find a solution. From then on, I was on my own.
I was lucky, because of my mental health problems at the time, to be offered my own flat within just a few months of being homeless and living at the Salvation Army.
I lived alone, out of work, on disability benefits. Just me and my beautiful white cat, Kane. But in 2006 a very special friend came into my life, who just so happened to be a NLP Master and hypnotherapist.
Her name was Sara. A warm, motherly character. She was the kind of person who comes into your life and accepts you exactly as you are, lifting you up, and making you feel loved. Can you think of someone like that during your life?
She would challenge me to stop being a victim, and remind me of who I really am (even though I found it hard to believe). “You are an amazing person. Don't forget who you are and why you have come here. You are a healer, and could serve so many people with your gifts.”
Sometimes we would soar high together, other times I would crash back into disbelief and victim hood. 7 years of highs and lows, but the longer I continued the deeper I seemed to fall into the abyss.
It was a summer's day, June of 2008, when I was considering to finally get a job. But after being out of work for almost 10 years, that's a very alien concept! I also considered the irony of going to work and having less than I would on disability.
However, I remembered the words of the world's no. 1 coach Tony Robbins, that Sara had quoted me recently, “Change happens when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of change.”
In that moment, I made a Choice. Sara's words reverberated in my mind again, “Don't forget who you are and why you have come here...” That's right, I thought, I came here to Serve and help others, and yet there seems to a big gap between where I am and where I am meant to be. I realised that I must build a bridge to my Destiny by taking it "one step at a time."
I managed to get back into employment as a Support worker with autistic and ADHD clients, surprised myself by getting to work consistently every morning at 7am, cycling 120+ miles per week to work, and a dedicated meditation practise of 2 hours every morning that really helped me stay positive and focused.
I also hit the gym for the first time in my life (going 5 days per week) in 2011, which I found to work very well for my concentration and mood, and it was in that year that I also trained and qualified as a Solution Focused Hypnotherapist.
I went on to create my first hypnosis practise seeing approximately 15 clients per week, in addition to my day job, and helped many people overcome anxiety, depression, and trauma.
Over the years I also helped many children with ADHD, behavioural problems, and anger. And this, I realised, is where my passion lies because of my own experience of overcoming ADHD.
Today, I work in a residential school for children with autism and ADHD, and specialise in coaching adults and children with ADHD, educating, inspiring, and transforming the way we look at - and live - with this highly misunderstood condition.
This is my passion, this is my Mission, to help one ADHD child or adult at a time, and to champion the cause of neurodiversity. I believe that we were never meant to fit in, but that we were born to stand out!
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