About Jamie Vasilyan
Since my childhood I had suffered bullying, depression, family dysfunction, as well as behavioural and learning difficulties in the form of “ADHD”, although the latter wasn't diagnosed until 2004 at the age of 24.
At the time I had also broken up from my longest relationship ever, was finding it impossible to keep down a job, and became homeless to boot.
I received medication for ADHD, but within weeks became deeply depressed and suicidal.
The psychiatrist then prescribed me mood stabilisers and tranquilisers. But my response to him was unequivocal: "I don't just feel suicidal, I actually threw myself at the glass of a fourth story window. If it wasn't for the staff at the Salvation Army, I wouldn't be here right now. Enough is enough..."
Now, don't get me wrong. For 80% of people medication tends to work pretty well, and many hail it as a miracle. But I was in the 20% for whom it doesn't work and/or the side effects are unbearable. Suffering from headaches, dizziness, dehydration, and tourette's syndrome, that day I refused to follow that path any further and vowed to find a solution. From then on, I was "out on a limb."
I was lucky, because of my mental health problems at the time, to be offered my own flat within just 6 months of being made homeless and living at the Salvation Army.
For the next 10 years, I lived alone, out of work, on disability benefits. Just me and my beautiful white cat, Kane. But in 2006 a very special friend came into my life, who just so happened to be a NLP Master and hypnotherapist.
Her name was Sara. A warm, motherly character. She was the kind of person who comes into your life and accepts you exactly as you are, lifting you up, and making you feel loved. Can you think of someone like that during your life? She was also the kind of person who comes into your life and you're never the same again!
She would challenge me to stop being a victim, and remind me of who I really am (even though I found it hard to believe). “You are an amazing person. Don't forget who you are and why you have come here. All this is happening for a reason, and one day you will look back from a place of understanding and peace with what happened, and be able to share that understanding with others who struggled like you did."
I would sigh at her words of encouragement, really wanting to believe it was true, but I struggled with the demons of doubt. Sometimes we would soar high together, other times I would crash back into disbelief and victim hood. 7 years of highs and lows. But the longer I continued the deeper I seemed to fall into the abyss. But I guess eventually you can only go so low. I became sick and tired of being sick and tired.
It was a summer's day, June of 2008, when I was considering to finally get a job. But after being out of work for almost 10 years, that's a very alien concept! I also considered the irony of returning to work and having less money than I would have on disability.
However, I remembered the words of Tony Robbins, that Sara had quoted me in response to my doubts: “Change happens when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of change.”
In that moment, I made a Choice. Sara's words reverberated through my mind again, “Don't forget who you are and why you have come here...” That's right, I thought, I came here to Serve and help others, and yet there seems to a big Gap between Where I am and where I am Going. I realised that I must build a bridge to my Destiny by taking it "one step at a time."
The first step that I took was to volunteer as a classroom support worker for children with autism and ADHD, in a unit in a mainstream school. I enjoyed that for 2 years and learned a lot from it.
Then in 2011, my life completely transformed. I chose to end my previous career as a sales-guy in jobs I found stressful and re-train as a support worker for people with autism, and surprised myself by getting to work consistently every morning at 7am, and cycling 120+ miles per week to get there. I also took up a dedicated meditation practise every morning that really helped me stay positive and focused. In fact, within 2.5 months of these consistent changes, I suddenly came out of my depression. The dark cloud that had plagued me since childhood, finally lifted.
I also hit the gym for the first time in my life (going 5 days per week) in 2011, which I found to work very well for my concentration and mood, and it was in that year that I also trained and qualified as a Solution Focused Hypnotherapist.
I went on to create my first hypnosis practise helping other people with their problems, in addition to my day job, and helped many people overcome anxiety, depression, and trauma.
Over the years I also helped many children with ADHD, behavioural problems, and anger. And this, I realised, is where my passion lies because of my own experience of overcoming ADHD.
Today, I work in a residential school for children with autism and ADHD, and specialise in coaching adults and children with ADHD, educating, inspiring, and transforming the way we look at - and live - with this highly misunderstood condition.
Part of my personal "ADHD Solution" was to find a greater purpose and meaning in my life, and to change my lifestyle.
This is my passion, this is my Mission, to help one ADHD child or adult at a time, and to champion the cause of neurodiversity. I believe that we were never meant to fit in, but that we were born to stand out! And that when you learn about your uniquely wired brain, and begin living life to the full again, you will find a way to be successful and happy despite - or even because - of your uniqueness.
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