I know it may sound controversial at first, but hear me out when I propose that you can hypnotise your child with ADHD and help them get more control over their symptoms and behaviours.
Now I understand that might sound manipulative at first, but we need to remember the hypnotists' maxim, “The mother and father are the best hypnotists in the world.” And also the fact that, whether you use formal hypnosis or not, your children are already super suggestible and responding to your suggestions, whether you intend to hypnotise them or not.
"Words are like spells. Be careful what you say!"
Before I share with you a simple but powerful hypnosis technique that you can use to safely and easily hypnotise your child with ADHD, and become a better hypnotic parent, let's get clear about the ethics of this...
Busting Myths and Fears About Hypnosis
Hypnosis is NOT mind control. I wish it was, because if that were true everyone would agree to be my client, and I'd click my fingers once and every problem they had would disappear instantly. Therefore, all hypnotherapists would be overnight millionaires, and all problems would cease to exist in the human race! If only.... 😉
Hypnosis is not some special ability that only certain people have. We may like to believe that we can't be hypnotised “because I have a strong mind” or because “I am too intelligent to fall for that” or “be controlled". But in reality, people who believe that can often still be hypnotised, and hypnosis doesn't mean you are weak or stupid. To the contrary, the ability to be hypnotised is connected to strong will power and intelligence.
After all, hypnosis helps you decide what you want (e.g. stop smoking, lose weight, or become a more effective parent) so in that sense it helps you become more “wilful” not less. Everyone can be hypnotised if they want to be, because in reality hypnosis happens naturally everyday:
- Spacing out in front of the television
- Wondering where all the time went
- Talking to one's self or daydreaming
- Fantasizing or imagining things
We go in and out of trance many times a day, and even when we're not in that “day-dreamy” zone, nonetheless we are still suggestible because we always have a subconscious mind, which is 90-99% of our mind. This is true even when we are wide awake!
And here's what you need to remember as a parent considering how to hypnotise your child with ADHD: Children are imaginative, creative, playful, trusting, learn fast, and super suggestible, precisely because their brains are in a naturally hypnotic state 24/7. This is why children are in fact the easiest to hypnotise because they are (pretty much) “already there”.
To think that choosing to hypnotise your child with ADHD (or indeed any child) is in some way unethical makes no sense, therefore, because you are already doing that one way or another, whether you are conscious of it or not, or whether you want to or not.
But if you accept this is the case and be careful what you say, and realise that your words are like “spells,” then you can actually use your every word to help your child and improve your relationship with them in ways you never dreamed possible. And yes, as a bonus, you will likely notice that they listen and respond to you more than ever before! Something which all parents want more of, right? Are you ready? Let's show you how to hypnotise your child with ADHD child safely and consensually.
The Hypnotic Bedtime Story Technique
Old fashioned hypnotists would refer to hypnosis as “sleep,” but today we are constantly telling people that it is different from sleep. However, there is still a grain of truth in the idea. Hypnosis comes from the greek word “hypnos” which means sleep, and research indicates that Rapid Eye Movement (when the eyes move, often quite rapidly) occurs on three occasions: during the REM phase of dreaming, daydreaming, and hypnosis. In other words, hypnosis is a form of day dreaming.
So, this is why the following technique is an easy yet powerful way to hypnotise your child without having to master the art of hypnosis – when your child is falling asleep they are going into a spontaneous hypnotic trance (REM) anyway! So here's how to help them use it to their advantage...
All hypnosis works better when you have the other person's agreement and input. So during the day, share with your child that you would like to help them achieve any goal that they may have, such as being able to focus in class, learn faster, or become better at football. Make sure that these goals are things they want to work on, versus things that only you want, as we want the child's consent and motivation. Let them know that later that night, when they are half asleep, you will talk to their subconscious (that I often describe to my young clients as “Subby” or some name of their choosing) and let it know what you want. Another way of explaining it is that it's similar to “Aladdin's lamp,” a part of their mind that can help them achieve their wishes (although you might like to explain that it's “kinda like magic, but you need to take action too,” to instill some realistic thinking in them, or what educational psychologist Dr Carol Dweck coined the term “Growth Mindset”).
Settle them at bedtime with a positive bedtime story, which itself is a form of hypnotic metaphor. Just make sure the story is a positive one. You may also want to try out books on hypnotic metaphors for use with children, much like I use in my therapy practice. When they are half asleep, speak to them to check that they are not totally unconscious, because for this to be most effective you want them in the “in between” state. Use the following words: “You can hear what I'm saying and yet you stay asleep. You are asleep, but you can hear and understand what I am saying. So if you can hear what I am saying, then lift up one of the fingers on your right hand” [Or whatever is their dominant hand].
If there is no response, lighten their sleep state by putting a hand on their shoulder and saying, “As you feel my hand on your shoulder, this reminds you to come up just enough to be able to hear and understand what I am saying but still stay asleep.” Repeat step 2.
When you get a positive response, give the agreed upon suggestions, such as, “You will wake up in the morning full of energy and positivity and looking forward to going to school” or “You will find yourself able to focus at school and get your work done.” Repeat the suggestions given at least 3 times and/or elaborate, but always use lots of repetition with ADHD children. And remember what you learned in the previous Tip #1 about avoiding “don't,” “not” and “try” (which implies failure), and keeping your wording literal and positive.
Conclusion: Becoming An Effective Hypnotic Parent
So there you have it. How to hypnotise your child safely and consensually to help them achieve whatever they want. You can use this technique to help them improve their sleep, wake up more easily, increase their confidence, or improve their focus at school. Or indeed any other reasonable area that you may want to work on. Just remember to get their input on the desired outcome, make sure it's consensual, and keep practising. Sometimes the benefits come slowly and sometimes they come quickly. Sometimes the benefits are noticeable immediately or take a little while longer. Every child is different. Repetition is key with children with ADHD.
Keep practising and let me know how it goes. I would love to hear your stories regarding how you hypnotise your child with ADHD, and answer any questions you may have. Just leave comments down below. Good luck.
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